beautysnaked:

coldbitterness:

[TW: Rape Culture] Hugo Schwyzer: Women should let men cum on their faces. Otherwise they’re making him feel bad!

galesofnovember:

lilacturtl:

friendlyangryfeminist:

Seriously fuck him.. 

Is anyone terribly surprised he quoted Dan Savage, who’s said to speak for the LGBT+ community while hatin’ on bisexuals, trans* people and lesbians? 

And now he wants to explain how a cis man needs women to affirm and accept his manly, manly sperm in order to love his body!

For a young man raised with the sense that his body – and especially his penis – is “disgusting”, a woman’s willingness to accept a facial is an intensely powerful source of affirmation.

WHAT THE FUCK.

Cis men, let me affirm something: The world is designed to appreciate your penis. The phallus is a symbol of power. 

The fastest growing cosmetic surgery isn’t for your penis, it is for vaginas. Cis men aren’t sold wipes that hurt their genitals, not the way people with vaginas are. 

Oh, sure, cis men get small dick jokes - and I’m not saying that’s acceptable. Whatever your size of penis, it is fine. It’s natural. But those jokes don’t go anywhere. Jokes about how gross and weird vaginas are? Those jokes turn in douching, into vaginal reconstruction, into people thinking their vaginas are gross.

I can’t count on two hands the amount of people I know who have never received oral sex because they think their vaginas are “weird”.

So FUCK YOU HUGO SCHWYER and telling people that if they love the men in their lives, they should accept facials. 

(There’s nothing wrong with liking facials, receiving or giving. There is something terribly wrong with guilting people into any sexual practice) 

First of all, today’s Hugo droppings are another one for the #jezebelselfparody and #feministblogsirrelevanttoactualfeminism evidence pile. Secondly, ew. Thirdly, when will this stupid woman-hating assclown stop pontificating about, of all terrible things for him to pontificate about, how women should feel about sex of whatever type? Finally, ew again.

and ftr,  this is the kind of sexism, heteronormativity and rape culture assumptions I was talking about.   Hugo’s pretty much the worst, but he’s not the only.

I am so mad right now

I really think that he is deliberately saying horrible, inflammatory things during a time when he’s well-aware that he’s under a certain degree of scrutiny, and Jezebel seems to be totally cool with it

I just posted this comment there but I doubt it’ll be published: 

“It’s very important for my own self-worth that I vomit on the faces of Hugo Schwyzer and anyone else who thought writing and publishing this was a good idea

It comes from a place of longing so it’s okay”

I love facials but like fuck would I be accepting them purely because some guy feels bad about his wang & needs some affirmation.  Where’s my affirmation?  Oh, right, I have to affirm myself.  Awesome.

Bolded for such a concise and succinct way of putting it.

The article sounds much too one-way. Making each other feel good is kinda the point of having sex (unless you’re doing it for procreation), but this whole article seems more concerned with the men feeling insecure than with women feeling pressured.

The woman he interviewed even said: “many women (often with good reason) have a difficult time believing that degradation isn’t at the root of straight men’s fascination with facials.”

Often with good reason.

OFTEN WITH GOOD REASON!!!!

Then how about you start concerning yourselves with why that is, and why it is often justified? How about you, HS, start dealing with the more common situation that is the direct and justified reason for women’s wariness?

If you solve this problem, then the minority of insecure cis men who can’t get the affirmation they need won’t have a problem anymore, because believe me, women will notice if we no longer have to worry about our partners possibly wanting to degrade us. And we will be happy when the time comes. And the problem will be solved.